Okay, Robert, don't cringe. But I started thinking about this because of your latestg isn't just some other chick he's testing. And it hints that he might just be willing to put effort into everything he does in future. (Like a relationship, hint hint.)
I don't want my thoughts misconstrued, don't get it twisted: I'm not saying it should be the man's sole responsibility to provide an entertaining evening, nor does it have to be his choice. IMO, whoever does the asking should be the one with the burden of choosing the date destination. However, in the world I grew up in, it was most often the case that the females were either a) too cowardly to do the asking or b) reared to believe that the man should do the asking (a pity, IMO).
I think the old "dinner and a movie" routine should be dragged off its pedestal, kicking and screaming if need be, then tarred and feathered and tossed in the gutter. At the very least, movies should be followed, rather than preceded by, the dinner. Or better yet, have dinner, then the movie, then sit down at a coffee shop (or some other location) to discuss the movie. Highlights, mistakes, what-have-you.
There you have it, the Handbook on Dating, According to Avril.
-Ave
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I agree with you completely. It is the most boring and played out date. Hence my two entries of brainstorming trying to find out where I should take her. It's either the museum or the pool hall, I think, in case you were wondering.
Dinner and a movie can still be good though. For example: I invite her over to my apartment. I cook Italian chicken again (see still talks about how good it was before). After eating we snuggle up on my couch under a nice warm blanket and watch a movie, something easy going. Maybe even something we've seen before so we can talk.
Doesn't that sound nice? I'm thinking third date.
I'm sure your Italian chicken is delectable! Would you like me to pass on one of my favorite recipes? You can try it out first, and if you like it, you can share it with your friends.
I think the point of all that rambling about how to do a movie for a date was exactly the same thing you were trying to tell me, so I'll say it plainly: there are, of course, exceptions to the rule. I agreed that a movie wasn't necessarily a *bad* date. Just a (very) poor first choice.
I still say go with pool. What sort of museum were you thinking of again? A history museum? Or was it art? I forgot.
Ave
Art, art, art! Does a history museum sound very romantic to you? lol
I think I'm going with pool though. I'll save the other stuff for later.
And yes, I'd love that recipe.
hummmm...the one thing you said which is actually brilliant.....and i'm not implying the rest wasn't...but this one thing really stuck out to me...i'll quote it...
"All I'm saying is it's nice to see when a man (as it's almost always the man's choice for the first date) put some thought into his choice. It shows that the girl he's taking isn't just some other chick he's testing. And it hints that he might just be willing to put effort into everything he does in future. (Like a relationship, hint hint.)"
i never bothered to think it through/analyze...to that level....but duh! makes perfect sense. good tip, Ave! thanks!
lol, let me finish by saying/typing...if i see another dope reading poetry or playing guitar to his date...i'll puke!!! something are just too obvious...and if a girl can't see through that...than you'd really have to question if you want to date her, lol.:)
j.h.
Robert, it doesn't sound necessarily romantic, but it sure sounds like fun. At least, more fun than an art museum. But that's because I'm not really a fan of art.
What's romantic is knowing what she likes and going with it.
My mom likes to go out to bars and clubs and karaoke . . . so one night a guy took her to Downtown Charleston and they hit up all the best nightlife. They didn't stay long in any one place, but the guy introduced her to all his friends and highlighted all the best parts of any one location. They did it all on foot. Mom said that was the best date she ever had. Not really romantic, but she loved it.
Avril
Yeah, that's me. I tend to overanalyze everything. I'm hoping some guy who just doesn't get everything I said will stumble on this entry and say, "Wow! I get it!" And maybe change him for the better. Also gives all you poor men some insight into the way we women think. lol Cause lord knows you all need some help with *that.*
Hehehe.
Avril
Yeah, I know, I know. I'm going to have to get some baseball tickets.
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