Are You a Flake? (The mother of all self-pity rants.)

Entry brought over from MySpace.

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I wanted to write this entry without sounding petulant, but some things are just impossible. So here goes the petulance.

I hate a lot of things about my generation. We're lazy. We're illiterate. We're misguided (by each other). But worst of all, we're mannerless. (Of course, I'm not talking about ME.)
And at the top of the mannerless-isms that bother me are the people who are completely undependable.

I have a theory. I think people say nice things about my personality but just don't mean it. Really really. "Kris, you're so intelligent." "Kris, you've always got something fun to say." "Kris, you're funny."

"Kris, what I'm telling you about you is a total load of bullshit."

I get so tired of people who don't do what they say they're going to do. I'd be hard-pressed to list the times I've been stood up or forgotten. And the excuses are never good enough. Never once have I had a person say, "Sorry, I was in a coma and couldn't get to a phone--even a payphone. Couldn't even communicate to someone to call you for me."

If you really wanted to show up and hang out with me, you would try your damnedest to be there. And if you really liked me, you'd at least call me to tell me things had changed, not just not show or call, and then three days later, "Sorry I wasn't there/didn't call you."

If you can't make it and can't reach me I expect a phone call and lots of groveling ASAP, not the following week.

I am sick unto death of being overlooked like my time is not as valuable as yours. And if you're reading this and wanting to ask, "Is this about the time I (Fill in the blank with incredibly inconsiderate thing you did to me.)?" then your answers are yes, sort of, and no, not really.
I don't have any one specific time in mind, but I could give you a list half a mile long if you really want it.

I'm just asking for courtesy. If we have a date to do something, for anything and any reason, try to do it and be there. It's just good manners.

I don't want to go out of my way to be somewhere at a specific time, then get there to find out I've been stood up anyway. If you don't want to do whatever it is, don't agree to it or set it up. Simple.

Moving on, since I'm already talking about my self-pity.

I have another theory. I think people get bored with me. Maybe I act one way when I first meet people then change, I don't know. But I do know that the longer I know people, the more they seem to turn into these flakes. Maybe people generally don't have bad manners--maybe they just feel like they can treat me like cave dirt because I'm unimportant in the grand scheme of their lives.

Whatever, I do my best to make sure that if I make a date, I don't break it. I will go out of my way to make it where I'm supposed to be, and I expect the same in return.

Moral of the entry? Stop being a flake.

-Ave